Expert Guidance for a Journey of Understanding

It can be incredibly overwhelming and shocking to have your child come out to you. It brings with it so many mixed emotions and uncertainty.

The very first thing I want you to know is that your feelings are normal and valid.  It’s disorienting to know your child and then have them share something about themselves that you hadn’t previously known.

You might find yourself wondering where God is in it all and replaying past moments over and over again, wondering what’s been real and true. Shock has a way of doing that to us. It’s also natural to have questions and concerns about what this means for your child and your family.

Our Free book “The First 90 Days” will help guide and anchor you.

Implementing Practical Solutions

Within the pages of our free book, you'll find a wealth of practical guidance, heartfelt support, and much-needed reassurance tailored specifically for parents navigating the first 90 days after their child comes out. From initiating open conversations to understanding your child's perspective, each chapter is meticulously crafted to equip you with the tools and insights necessary to embrace this transformative journey with confidence.

Let this book be your guiding light as you embark on this profound journey of self-discovery, growth, and unwavering support for your child. Claim your free copy today and take the first step towards embracing the beautiful complexities of parenthood with grace and confidence.

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What People are Saying about the Book

This book made me feel more empowered and capable. I feel like this book has useful tools for parents of LGTBQ youth. And I like that this book asks us to slow down and breathe. Things can only get better - Cassandra C

Thank you for putting into words all the things I've been thinking and feeling concerning my child. This book helped me to feel less alone and it normalized my feelings. What a gift! - Nick S

Candice has tenderly addressed the true feelings that can and do occur for parents and children. Honest writing for a sensitive subject - Jo B

Who is this Book for?

This book is for every parent who finds themselves facing the pivotal moment when their child comes out. Whether you're a parent navigating this territory for the first time or seeking additional support and guidance, this resource is designed with you in mind.

New Parents: If your child has recently come out, you may be experiencing a range of emotions and uncertainties. This book offers practical advice and reassurance to help you navigate this new chapter with confidence and compassion.

Experienced Parents: Even if you're already familiar with the LGBTQ+ community, each child's journey is unique. This book provides fresh perspectives and strategies to support your child's individual needs and foster a loving and Christian environment within your family.

Extended Family: Siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and friends also play crucial roles in a child's support network. This book equips you with the knowledge and tools to be a supportive loved one.

Educators and Professionals: Teachers, counselors, and healthcare providers can benefit from understanding the experiences of LGBTQ+ youth and their families. This book offers insights and resources to better support these individuals in educational and professional settings.

No matter where you are on your journey, this book provides valuable insights, practical strategies, and a sense of community to help you navigate the first 90 days and beyond with grace, understanding, and unwavering love.

Excerpt from the Book…

Parents, you are the most important person in your child’s life.  I know this time for you is very confusing, painful and lonely. To hear the words from your son, or daughter that they are LGBTQ launches you into your own grief process.  But do not lose hope, this place won’t always feel so dark and painful.  This book is for you because of the deep importance that you walk through this grief to the other side.    

You have more power than anyone else to help your child find peace and happiness in this world, or to experience torment and pain. Your reaction to your son, or daughter being lesbian, gay, transgender, bi-sexual or questioning will have the greatest impact on their life – more than anyone else. But the truth is, it’s not easy news to get and your ability to process this is deeply important.

Quotes from Parents who have Read the Book

When a child comes out as LGBTQ, we often forget that the parents themselves go through journeys of their own. They may find themselves grieving over the loss of the hopes and dreams they have had for their children since birth. Unfortunately, there aren't many resources written from a Christian perspective to help the parents on their journeys. This is why I wholeheartedly recommend Candice M. Czubernat's The First 90 Days: A Christian Devotional Guide for Parents of LGBTQ Children. This valuable book offers the space and tools needed for parents to process their emotions during this time of transition - Christy W

This book is an invaluable resource for parents. Candice gives voice to the grief, questions, and range of feelings that parents experience when their children come out to them. It is like she is sitting in the room with you and giving expression to what is in your heart. She offers parents permission and space to experience their range of emotions while at the same time, she helps parents know how to journey alongside their children and to love them well. As a parent for whom this book is written, and as a minister, I have referred this book to other parents, to be a source of comfort and hope for them - Eva SK

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About Affirming Therapy

We believe in the intrinsic value of all LGBTQ+ people and that there shouldn’t be a financial barrier for LGBTQ+ people to receive mental health services. That’s why we started Affirming Therapy, our mission is to bridge the financial gap between mental health accessibility and the LGBTQ+ community.

Affirming Therapy is a 501(c)(3) registered charity.