Molly Downs-Stoller

My name is Molly Downs-Stoller and I’m a gay, Christian, Marriage and Family Therapist who lives in San Diego with my wonderful wife Sue and our dog Sir Andrew James. I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work from Point Loma Nazarene University and a Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of San Diego.

I became a Christian in high school after going to a Southern Baptist youth group and I have been involved with conservative churches up until the day I met my wife. Meeting her totally rocked my world! For years, I have heard preaching about homosexuality being a sin, however I found myself in love with a woman, and one who loves God. I didn’t understand how our amazing love for each other could have been a sin. Wow…I was completely wrong all of those years and I know without a doubt that God not only loves me but will never leave me.

The journey that we walk as LGBTQIA Christians can be a difficult one, however it doesn’t have to be a lonely one. I ended up losing my church, my best friend and my goddaughter, however I have never been happier or felt as free as I do now. I needed supportive/affirming friends and an affirming therapist to help me get to the other side of my loss and confusion and now I have the chance to walk alongside others.

I have worked in the mental health field for over 15 years and have seen the healing power of faith and therapy. I became a therapist so I could join others in the difficult stories and experiences in their lives and finding clarity and freedom in those places. I have extensive experience working with depression, anxiety, trauma and crisis intervention. I am also certified in EMDR and am informed on Internal Family Systems (IFS).

I am so truly blessed to be able to help people sort through what they believe in, how they see God, how they see themselves, and how God sees them. So let’s do this together!